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Recognizing a Trauma Response- and Responding with Love

A trauma response is any reaction that serves to protect us from what we perceive as a threat due to our past lived experiences. They often include emotions, body sensations, thoughts, and behaviors. They are instinctual, learned, and come from the part of our brains concerned with survival – the amygdala. Trauma responses and what can trigger them are as unique as the person.

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What’s the Problem?

It is no surprise that marriage and serious romantic relationships are fertile ground for conflict. These relationships consist of two people, with often vastly different personalities, communication styles, family histories, ways of giving and receiving love, quirks, and idiosyncrasies.

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Part 2: Am I Enough? How to Identify and Respond to Expectations

Most of us wonder if what we’re doing or who we are is enough. Whether we’re at a holiday party, family gathering, or in the throws of our workday, expectations persist. We may notice them when we respond defensively to a colleague who questions our competence, or when we’re running behind schedule and we blame the traffic. Although our environment plays a significant

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Am I Enough? How to Identify and Respond to Expectations

Most of us wonder if what we’re doing or who we are is enough. Whether we’re at a holiday party, family gathering, or in the throws of our workday, expectations persist. We may notice them when we respond defensively to a colleague who questions our competence, or when we’re running behind schedule and we blame the traffic. Although our environment plays a significant

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4 Grounding Tools to Calm the Chaos

What are grounding tools and how do I use them? They can help you exit an unwanted flashback, decrease anxiety, escape the impulse to engage in addictive behavior, to settle down from overwhelming emotion, or get reconnected to your body. They are also helpful for sexual trauma triggers, emotional

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Six Steps to Greater Emotional Stability

Do you find yourself frequently feeling anxious, irritable, or depressed, but you’re not sure how you got there? Sometimes we’re going through the day feeling fine, and then something happens and we lose our peace, get anxious, get angry, or just feel like shutting down. Maybe you notice yourself

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Betrayal Trauma- The Discovery

‘How did I miss the signs? I should have known. Am I not good enough? Is there something wrong with me? I have been emotionally distant. I am not attractive.’ The list can go on of all the things that can come through the mind of the woman who has just learned about

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